Psychologist's opinion: How do we get to forget about us?

In the modern age, it is becoming easier to forget about yourself, your needs, to be an observer of your own states and feelings. The Internet, telephony, TV, magazines, shows and all the external entertainment shifts our attention from within to what is happening outside of us. It's true, it's tempting and easy to lose in the many variations of entertainment, amusement, which can be captivating, even addictive in some cases. And yes, it may seem exciting, perhaps relaxing, to lose hours in front of a screen, watching a show, a serial, analyzing with all the curiosity of the 6-year-old neighbor who has just posted a photo of his dinner . . .

. And sometimes it is not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be beneficial such relaxation, a detachment from your own problems. However, psychologist Andra Tanasescu states that the benefits of self-loss in the outside world by moving the focus from the inside to the outside are fewer than the problems this causes. According to the specialist, a life situation is interpreted by our self in 3 distinct stages - primary interpretation, based on past experiences, associated emotions and the type of behavior proper, and due to self-forgetting, we most often have . Stage 1: Primary Interpretation Based on Past Experience Let's think of a situation of life we ​​can meet each of us, let's say X.

If we were to see everything as a system with a very well-established process, first there is a flashing thought of a few thousandths of a second. This thought represents the primary interpretation of the situation X encountered at a given moment, interpretation based on past experiences. This stage takes place, most of the time, almost imperceptible, being rather an unconscious, spontaneous reaction, Stage 2: We trigger the emotion associated with the interpretation given to the situation. For example, if I interpret the situation that I face as dangerous, it will trigger fear and a state of alert, panic or prudence. Often, the way we perceive and direct the thoughts we formulate about a particular event determines the quality and nuance of the emotions that are triggering in us.

Depending on our type of thinking, we set off a set of emotions that prepare the next natural stage, Step 3: Emotion determines a certain type of behavior Depending on the interpretation we give to the event (situation X), the reaction we have may or may not be appropriate to the context. I live a feeling of fear, adopt a behavior specific to fear: run, defend, cry for help, etc. . How do we get to forget about us? . If we look at this seemingly simple path, from stimulus, from thought, to emotion, to reaction, the natural question is how can this disconnection affect itself in such moments? .

Thus, I lose contact with my true experiences and needs from that moment. By this loss, me. . . Lose control of one's own person and lose my authenticity.

One of the consequences is the risk of a completely inappropriate reaction in a particular context, which may lead to imbalances or conflicts on the professional or personal level. Moreover, besides the fact that it can affect the quality of life and relationships, there is a risk that those incorrectly managed emotions may lead to health problems, becoming manifest in the physical plane without we realizing what is happening. When the body begins to Because of self-forgetting, there are enough people who misinterpret a situation - for example, by fear, not experiencing a traumatic experience in the past, generating courage, instead of feeling afraid, and adopting a . .